Sara

It's the sad truth that there are too many losers like John. My mom used to say about louts like him that they are not real men.(the Lawrence Welk TV show which had been sacred in our house was forever banned when he divorced his wife).
Divorce is always sad (except for abuse)and I know the collective hearts of OCF go out to you. David's assessment of John is so true. To continue with the Wizard of Oz metaphors: John is just another flying monkey. Too bad he took your heart. Perhaps he ever regains his manhood he will come crawling back to you begging forgiveness. Be strong for your child.