Hey Ryobi,
See another ENT and just lie: say that you have a family history of cancer, and your mom and dad had oral cancer. That will definitely jump start the biopsy. I've had problems with lots of ENT's, and it took awhile to find one that would do a FNA biopsy on my inflammed tonsils. I just lied and said my dad had tonsilar cancer, and I want to know if that's what this is. I don't understand why some of these guys are so reluctant.
Anyways, do you surf? If you surf, get the hell out of Washington State! That place is so depressing! Move to Hawaii or California for awhile. Probably better to move to Hawaii and get away from the stress.