Hi, Kerry- well here is more to read: I saw that Stephen had 42 rad tx,s. My husband had 30 and slept most of the time for 3 months post rad. We also had a hell of a time getting enough nutrition in him because he felt so bad. His only real pain med. was Hydrocodone with some aspirin or Tylenol .Is Stephen still taking something for pain? My husband has always been tough about pain. He worked in construction and cabinet making most of his adult life- not a place for wimps- but the cancer surgeries and rad. put him down. We are now on our second round with this and the chemo is also wiping him out. It sounds to me that you-understandably- want Stephen back in the swing of things- but he plainly is not able to do that yet. You are gonna need to be the strong one for a while yet. Those of us who are caregivers to our loved ones "hear you" and send you strenght to get your family through this. Amy