My husband Stephen got good news on his scan results. Activity in the right lower tongue base which is probably due to scar tissue. Scans again in 6 months - which I thought would be three next time and then on to six months. But regardless of the wonderful news my husband is not doing well at all. He is three months out from tx, and I know it is a SLOW recovery, but from what I've read here he should be doing much better than he is. Please keep in mind I'm not complaining but just confused and yes maybe getting a bit impatient that he is not pushing himself. He is in bed all day most days and I need to tell him to shower or he doesn;t. He does not do anythin with our four year old son and six year old daughter. I know hes been thru hell, I witnessed every horrific moment of it. I guess I feel like as a caretaker I've done all I can do and now he needs to pitch in. I know everyone is probably thinking depression which I think as well, who wouldn't be depressed. He still can't eat or barely drink. He has a dialation scheduled for August 10th so I pray it changes that. He is on an antipressant and has been through out treatment, maybe not the right one...He says he doesn't think he is depressed but that he just has no energy. I asked him the other night if he honestly felt like he was pushing himself at all and he said no. I guess my queation is do I need to push at this point. His family really needs him. He has a wealth of family and friends and has had temendous sdupport thru it all. No one could have done more for us thru this.
I hope I'm not sounding heartless, I love my husband but I can't stand to watch him lay in that bed day after day not even attempting to get up and come sit on the couch with his family. He complains of shoulder aches and headaches which I attribute to being bed ridden. Does this sound familiar to anyone...Any advice?