Kerry,

As you can tell from the responses so far, there is a pretty wide range of post-treatment reactions and recovery times. While I can't claim to have any first-hand experience with depression, some of your husband's behavior does seem to suggest this might be an ongoing issue, and maybe his doctors should be re-examining his medication.

I thought it was telling that when you asked him whether he was pushing himself, he said no. At this stage (3 months out and getting good test results so far), I would think he SHOULD try to push himself somewhat to see what he can tolerate and to try to get some strength back. My treatment included XRT x39 after surgery (but no chemo, which I'm sure added to your husband's misery). I worked at least part-time all the way through radiation (largely because I was in a job situation where I felt I had almost no choice) and then gradually started getting back to full time within a couple of months after the end of treatment. While I was still feeling weak, and it took quite awhile to regain the weight I had lost, I was able to keep at least some of my "normal" routine, which I thought was helpful to my overall state of mind at the time.

Cathy