Kerry,

Honestly, three months out of treatment, although I was not in bed all day, I was still very very sick from radiation and chemo. I had thought I'd be back at work full time by then (the fall semester started 2 and 1/2 months after I finished rad) and after talking with my ENT, I realized I wouldn't be ready for full time until the Spring. I was also still in a lot of pain, still using prescription pain meds, with all the attendant complications (constipation and some nausea) and still needing LOTS of rest. I was as weak as I've ever been. Walking up one longish flight of stairs carrying a bag of school stuff ( a couple of textbooks and notebooks) totally exhausted me--to the point where I ahd to sit down at the top!

I will say that I did push myself to get out of bed, bathe and get dressed every day and do at least something productive. I didn't want to get any weaker than I was and staying in bed all day leads to that. But I also did sleep a lot.

I am one of the folks hre that probably ahd a harder recovery and your husband may be also--it affects us all differently.

I would keep encouraging him to get out of bed, take a shower and get dressed but maybe other than that go easy on him. It's hard to even imagine how discouraging it can be to still feel so bad 3 months after chemo and rad are over. You feel like you're never going to have any energy back and having everyone else act as though you should have more energy could add to the depressingness of it.

Nelie