Liz- I know you've probably heard this before but you are NOT to blame for any of this. People suffering from depression are so unpredictable and the truth is that Rob probably couldn't have helped that much if Paul is so sick.

Anyway, give em hell at the hearing and try to take care of yourself. It's surely going to be very emotional for you.

All the best, Sue

cg to husband, 48 Stage 1V head and neck SCC. First surgery 9/07. Radiation and several rounds of chemo followed. Mets to chest and lungs. "Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain." Went home to God on February 22, 2009.