So he's in a 30 day "spin dry" (Detox is usually only 3 days)? Just remember that recovery is a life long program. HE (not you) has to be willing to go to ANY lengths to get it. If he's not willing to do AA - preferably daily meetings - or at least 90 meetings in 90 days you're in trouble. If he's a train wreck he should be thinking about a half way house after the spin dry. Do not let him manipulate you - we drunks are experts at that. We're also great liars and deceivers.

As we have suggested many times before get into Alanon and learn more about rescuing and enabling behavior or this will be just one more frustrating trip on the merry go round. I would suggest that you get a copy of the Big Book and read pp58-88 and also pp104-135.

Just like cancer recurrence, alcohol does the same game - it's always worse in a relapse. Even if you stop the disease keeps on going. There are many parallels between cancer and alcoholism. Always remember that drinking is only a symptom of the disease, that's why it is vital to work the steps and uncover the root causes. Having a sponsor (one with serious recovery and step experience) is also vital.

So here is an outline of the program:
Go to meetings
Read the Big Book
Get a sponsor
Work the steps
Get into service

It's not rocket science.

And by the way, you cannot "heal yourself" - it requires the grace of a higher power.