I chose to remain silent for a while after reading what Mandi has posted on 22/8. I was taken aback when she said she (caregivers) couldn't share her(their)feelings honestly on this forum because she was (they were) admonished at times. Now after reading Brian's post, I need to write to back him up. I am a frequent visitor on this forum because I know very well this is the place I get and give support, I can vent and share my feelings, happy and miserable. So far, I have not seen anyone being offended personally or admonished deliberately. As a Chinese, my English is of no equal to anyone of you here and so I check the word 'admonish' in the dictionary to make sure I get the meaning right. Everyone here, whether the patients themselves or the caregivers, share the same mission.... to defeat the most devilish enemy in our life battle. Some are luckier than the others. Everyone has a story behind him/her. We also have ups and downs. Believe me, last year I was on the verge of giving myself up when I was in the very severe depressioin episode and at that time I have no support group to help me. Now I am standing on my own feet again but it doesn't mean my problems are over. As I have said before, we are in the same boat aiming at the same goal. I have never met Brian before but I can feel how he feels when reading Mandi's post.

Karen stage 4 tonsil cancer diagnosed in 9/01.