Hi Michelle
You are doing GREAT GIRL... Now I've read all the posts above and all the advice is great, BUT the most important thing that You must not lose sight of is LOOKING AFTER YOU. While he goes for treatment, go have a coffee, get your hair fixed, as a care giver and an oral cancer patient, I'm on both sides of the fence, please try to do this, it's very important that you don't crumble...
Sunshine... love and hugs
Helen

SCC Base of tongue, (TISN0M0) laser surgery, 10/01 and 05/03 no clear margins. Radial free flap graft to tonsil pillar, partial glossectomy, left neck dissection 08/04