Liz, you did everything and then some to be supportive of Rob and don't for one minute think that anyone would think you're not a strong or caring person. Truthfully I'm amazed how patient you've been and how much crap you've put up with. You're not responsible for his bad choices - nor can you choose to survive for him. You also deserve to be happy and need to think about yourself at times.

I admire your loyalty but enough is enough. You find your own road and take our best wishes with you. I hope you will stay in touch. You're one hell of a caregiver and I know that better times are ahead for you.

Regards JoAnne


JoAnne - Caregiver to husband, cancer rt. tonsil, mets to soft palate, BOT, 7 lymph nodes - T3N2BM0, stage 4. Robotic assisted surgery, radical neck dissection 2/06; 30 IMTX treatments and 4 cycles of cisplatin completed June 06.