Liz, there are more stories out there than you would believe. My husband is staying at a lodge because we live out of town. He told me the other day that there were several couples there but a lot of them do not have meals together. (they sit at separate tables during meal time) My husband has snapped at me and I will say I have snapped at him. Not often, but yes it happens. If I had a man who drinked after all I went through with him, I would be so upset with him and probably leave too. Take care, Be careful of your health, perhaps join a group for support. Carol..