Liz, Difficult men are a challange to live with--sick difficult men are awful :rolleyes: Can't remember reading if you have considered an anti anexity or anti depressant script for yourself- but it might help. There were times during my husband's treatment that the ONLY way I could get him to cooperate with what he had been told to do was to threaten to hire a Home Health nurse to come in each day and oversee his schedule. I told him that if he would not follow the instructions his Docs had given me about his care, then I would go back to work and let him deal with a pro.
He knew I meant it, because I was also pretty honest about what the emotional upheaval was doing to me. That stratagy worked most of the time. However, there were times when he was just feeling too bad to eat or drink and just wanted to be left alone to sleep. It's a tough call- but constant tension and termoil between the two of you is hurting you both. When is he getting the peg??? Be strong. Amy in the Oz