Debra
There is not much I can add to Cindy`s brilliant post. What he is going through IS very normal, Like Cindy`s hubby mine tried so very hard to hide his feelings. The only time I heard him cry was when I walked in on him in the shower one day, to this day he does not know I witnessed his breakdown...no point in telling him it was normal...he is what he is.
I cannot imagine what the patients go through...one day they are in complete control of their lives and the next dependant on us for the littlest things.
I know this is hard on you but trust me the reward is priceless.... I look at him in wonder every day... unable to imagine life without him .
Hang in there Debra...you can do it and so can he.

Marica