Debra - That 'feeling' your husband describes may very well be radiation sickness (as mentioned above). Every person has a unique experience with radiation. And, treatment is not just physical, there is a potent emotional impact too. Those tears of his are likely not just about being in pain, but can also be an accumulated frustration and feeling of helplessness that most guys don't like - really don't like.

It is my belief that every patient needs to be actively involved in daily care and routines. I did my own peg feedings and helped monitor my meds and had some minor things to do around the house. Being completely dependent is bad. Get him to participate in small ways - it will be hard, but very empowering for him. He needs to feel some connection, and activity/responsibility is the way to do that.

You two can make it through this. You are stronger today than you were yesterday. You will be stronger tomorrow than you were today. You and your husband are at war with cancer. One side will win. We are with you. Tom