I am also a very private person, and I made the decision not to discuss my illness or treatment with everyone. Because of my appearance and speech, I am sure that rumors were flying, but most people were discreet. I have discovered that people will take their cues from you. It is now two years since my surgery, and I find myself more comfortable sharing my story. bottom line- do what feels right to you. You are just as important as anyone else, and deserve to do what feels good to you. take care-you will be able to cope. Fivepets