Hi!
Just wanted to say I have had the same feelings. My father was diagnosed with tongue cancer 1/02 & has had tongue surgery, neck surgery, & is currently receiving radiation treatments. I believe he has 2 weeks left. So far his attitude is amazingly positive. He is 69 years old & still working after he gets back from his treatment. He started using the feeding tube last week. The hardest thing for me to accept is that he had a lot of dental work within the year or so prior to his diagnosis. Yet he was the one that had to point it out to his doctor. Also, why him when for the last 30 years he has taken such good care of himself-non-smoker, non-drinker etc. He ran 4 miles several times weekly. I've cried a lot and have had a lot of anger too but have really not expressed it to him. The last month I have been coping much better. I guess trying to take it one day at a time. He is very appreciative of all the info from this site that I have given to him. It has been so valuable to me & has helped me cope. Thanks, Jayne