Hey Helen,
My prayers sure are with you. I am so sorry that Plan B has to happen. I look up to you so much with what you are dealing with. My hubby couldn't talk for 6 weeks during later part of treatments and I thought that was bad. I am so glad you are finding a way of communication anyway. Are they taking all of your tongue? Dan didn't have the flap, but a graft from his upper leg and a little over a third of tongue removal. The neck tumor popped up just three months later...what a surprise that was! It's been a long, hard road and I just pray for healing everyday and that this cancer would be gone. I will add you to my daily prayer time...that God would give you and your husband what you need to heal and be well again.
Take care,
Debbie