Rosie, what you posted on 20/7 made me feel so uncomfortable as I am always complaining about side effects of treatment while some people like Heather is still fighting a life battle without knowing when the rainbow will appear. I may be asking too much (as my husband always said so) but is it fair to compare myself to a rich man asking for a second home ? I don't think so. I am here to give support, to share my experience and to ventilate. A statement has come to my mind this morning that may explain why I am so attached to this forum: Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared is doubled.
My heart goes to you and Heather and all stage 4 cancer fighters.

Karen stage 4 tonsil cancer diagnosed in 9/01.