Dear Michelle,
Please know that I do pray for you everyday...I know that might not mean much at this time, but God can give you some peace if not now but down the road. I, too, get mad and wonder...Dan was not advised for radiation either, and by 3 more months he ended having a very aggressive tumor in his neck...had I been on this board earlier, we would have known to question that. They could not get all the tumor with radical neck dissection (in carotid and jugular), so just sewed him back up and finally at that point ended up in a good comprehensive HNC university. Again, had we known all we know from reseach especially on this site, we would have chosen a university as opposed to a local county hospital and oral surgeon there. Some days I can hardly stand the fact that we missed so much, but I try strongly believe God has a plan for us all, and had we done all that it might not have changed a thing, just gotton to the cancer sooner. Isn't it something that we learned a bit late...but maybe it was for the reason to help someone else who may beginning this battle. I would love to think we could at least do that!
Take care, sweetie, and know that you are truly loved and cared for on this board!
Debbie