Hi Mike, Welcome to OCF. I was diagnosed 4 years ago at age 44 (non smoker) with tongue cancer and two nodes positive, I was staged at IV. I live in Baltimore and received my treatment at Univ of Md. Hospital. I continue to be checked by my oral surgeon, ent and oncologist.
It was a shock when I was diagnosed and I prayed that I would live to see my children (twins) graduate high school, they were freshmen in high school at the time. Anyway, they are both in their second year of college now and I am still here. I know it is difficult especially when children are involved, I will keep you in my prayers.....God Bless, Carol
p.s. your cancer blog is very helpful to others

Diagnosed May 2002 with Stage IV tongue cancer, two lymph nodes positive. Surgery to remove 1/2 tongue, neck dissection, 35 radiation treatments. 11/2007, diagnosed with cancer of soft palate, surgery 12/14/07, jaw split. 3/24/10, cancer on tongue behind flap, need petscan, surgery scheduled 4/16/10
---update passed away 8-27-11---