Hey Tom,
I just wanted to tell you that yes you can do this, and you’ll be shocked at the strength you didn't know you had. I am also 33 and a year and a half ago was diagnosed with stage 4 base of tongue cancer. I did the chemo and radiation, and it sucked, but I’m fine now. One year cancer free. I know everyone’s experience is different, and every doctor is different, but here in the beginning stages just remember that they have to tell you all the terrible things that can possibly happen. Try to stay positive despite it. I know it all seems impossible now, but you can do this.