Cocoa, welcome to the site. Sorry you needed to find us. As to your mom, when you have your confrontation/discussion with her, have her call me. I smoked constantly from the time I was 14 until my tonsilectomy in November, 2003. That was 39 years. I smoked an average of a pack a day and developed stage IV tonsil cancer. That was what I bought myself for all of those thousands and tens of thousands of dollars I spent on tobacco. I stopped smoking the day I had my tonsils removed. I really wasn't interested in leaving my 15 year old daughter or my two sons (and especially not my wife). If that is not motivation enough for your mom, nothing will be. Stopping smoking was not too difficult once treatment began. Ripping part of your throat out and having someone cook your neck will get you to stop sucking smoke through your mouth without too much difficulty. This site has some connections to sites with pictures which will give mom an idea of what continuing smoking may cause. I used to say smoking was not a causitive factor as well, but that was just an excuse to continue smoking, which I knew in my heart of hearts. She does as well. So give her the information and email me is she would like to discuss this further.