Candace:
"Addiction is real, it isn't just a choice, it may start out that way, but it becomes addicting. Really, truly addicting."

So true. You see, I have OCD so I know about addictions and compulsions. That is why I have never told my mother how I felt about her smoking because I know that it is so hard to quit.

Candace:
"Be kind to your mother"

I know. That's all I want to do.

Candace:
"You honestly cannot make her stop smoking, that is something she will have to take on herself. And yes, it will probably cause the cancer to come back."

Yes, you can't make anyone do what they don't want to do and she has made up her mind that she is not going to quit. And yes, it the cancer has returned.

Candace:
"...I was unable to stop myself from walking up to people smoking and telling them about my brother."

I am so tempted to do that when I see people outside in the rain, snow and cold weather smoking. BUT then I bite my tongue.

Candace:
"And nobody quit smoking because of my lectures (hard to believe,but true!)."

Not gonna happen!

Candace:
"Be kind to her and vent here"

I really appreciate your response and thank you for making me feel welcome.

Cocoa