I just love that the first question always is "did you smoke". It's like people need to believe you did it to yourself in order to feel secure.

Another thing I can't stand is the constant "how are you doing". Contrary to popular belief I don't want to continually talk about it as its always in the back of my head. If I look find and don't say anything just don't say anything.

I did smoke. But my oncologist, ENT, and the tumor board all concluded conclusively that it wasn't related as I had only been smoking for a few years and wasn't a pack a day smoker. When I explain this, which I've stopped doing people always argue.
I'll often say to them "well you go to clubs and bars all the time. Alcohol can cause it too.

Or the people close to you think everything is ok because you look normal. If they could see inside my head they'd know there is a daily mental struggle.

I also love when people ask "can I see your tongue". To which I reply would you ever gave asked me that if I hadn't gotten cancer and an operation?"