Dear Amy,Faith and Smilnjen...you kids are great.
This is not something that we as parents want our kids to have to deal with.
My daughter who was 29 at the time came home to live with her Dad and I for 2 months when he got sick . I would not have made it without her.
My husband and I made a bargain, he could deal with getting healthy and I would deal with everything else!
He still will not come on the board, has no wish to hear any negative news about anyone. His attitude was always..I am going to get better no doubt about it ...I used to print up anything that I felt was imperative for him to read but, the burying your head in the sand routine seemed to work for him!
Take all the advice you can find here, these folks have been thru it all.
For now try and get your Dad to bulk up, he needs every bit of weight he can get to help his body with this fight .
We will always be here for you.
Love
Marica
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caregiver to husband Pete. SCC stage IV base of tongue, finished treatment 7/04 and doing great!