Amy, Welcome to the site. Sorry you had to find it. I had a cancer very similar to your Dad's. And my treatment appears very similar, though in different sequence. I had the tonsilectomy first, then chemo/radiation, then modified neck dissection with lymph node removal. Like your dad, I didn't want to know anything during treatment, feeling I could deal with whatever came up, but not the anticipation of what was going to happen. So I suggest you don't push him too much to get more information. I couldn't even go onto this site until after all of my chemo/rad treatments were done. Also, I didn't lose a noticable amount of hair during treatment, so maybe your dad won't either. I did lose some, but it wasn't noticable outside of the shower. The chemo treatment wasn't so bad, but the radiation was difficult at the end of treatment and a few weeks after, so anticipate his reaction to that. You are quite a daughter and I am sure your dad is proud of you. I have a 15 year old daughter and a 20 and 22 year old sons. If you want to communicate with them, just email me separately and I will give you their addresses. You will all be in my prayers and tell your dad that millions of us have made this same journey, so don't be too afraid of the outcome as it will all work out.