LB, in my opinion, since Dana Farber is one of the very best places in the country that puts it in the lead. Add to that the fact that you will be there, and that the Boston winter is behind you and it seems a clear choice to me. Treatment for this cancer is tough but doable. Your mother will be very tired. We all know the challenges inherent in adult parent-child relationships, but she's going to need a lot of help and you're the best person to provide it. Bu it's not going to be easy for you either. Your comment about not sleeping well, already at this point, is very telling. I'm sure that the hospital has resources to help you deal with it all as well and I urge you to take advantage of them.

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David 2
SCC of occult origin 1/09 (age 55)| Stage III TXN1M0 | HPV 16+, non-smoker, moderate drinker | Modified radical neck dissection 3/09 | 31 days IMRT finished 6/09 | Hit 15 years all clear in 6/24 | Radiation Fibrosis Syndrome kicked in a few years after treatment and has been progressing since | Prostate cancer diagnosis 10/18