While Paul did dial back his "one shot to cure this" story,and he made very good points and gave excellent advice on treatment, it does not change the fact that it's just an "old oncologist's tale". It's often repeated because it used to be true, but it's not true anymore. Literally, it is not true but a falsehood in the 21st Century. It's not "generally" true or any other kind of true for oral cancer.
Yes, it's good to be aggressive. Yes it is better to do more rather than less in order to not have a recurrence. But not because recurrences are fatal. But I do not see how it helps to repeat scary stories that are not true. There are plenty of reasons to do whatever it takes, but false fears should not be one of them IMO.
I've seen too many posters here all worried because their out of date radiologists have told them they could never have any more radiation or chemo after the first time.
Charm