Welcome Emilie,
My husband was just diagnosed with SCC BOT Sstage III. We are waiting for his surgery which is scheduled for Dec. 5th. My suggestion to you and what worked for us, is to tell everyone exactly what is told to you by the docs. And then in te next breath tell your family that you can't do it alone and that you will need thier help. It's really okay to ask. That's what family and friends are for. It's not an easy treatment. Rad and chemo make you very ill. You will be thankful in the end that reeached out to them and they were there for you. I wish you well and hope everything works out.