Dear Emilie,

My husband has almost exactly the same diagnosis as yours. He just started radiation this week and had his first session of chemo yesterday. I think I understand what you must be feeling right now. We have decided to tell our friends and family the facts as laid out for us by the doctors. I have found that each time I tell people about this, it helps me to face it a little better. This forum has done a lot in teaching me what I need to know about oral cancer. Knowing the facts is one way of wresting control back from the disease. Good luck and lot of hugs to you.