Staying busy is my best coping method. I keep adding to my 'to do list' so there's no end of things that need done. I'm always thinking of "my firsts without Jim", seems like they are never ending, but I have learned I can do things I would never have imagined doing. My son graduated from high school last month, I was determined to make that a celebration for him even though Jim wasn't with us and it was. I also recently went on Alaska cruise with my parents and sister. I agree with you - that was a much needed vacation! Trying to move on is the hardest task.