Dear Tammy,
These all sound like great suggestions and I'm sure you'll find out which ones work best for the both of you.

As Cheryl previously said and I have expressed the same sentiment...if one of us in our family had to have cancer, I'm glad it was me, because I didn't think I would ever be strong enough to be a caregiver. I have always been an emotional weakling, in my opinion. I remember saying that to my counselor...that I didn't think I could manage things well if the roles were reversed and she said, "You'd surprise yourself.". I think she was right, because when I think back to some of the most challenging times in my life, and there have been quite a few, I did handle things, but with lots of tears. I cry at the drop of a hat, but I also am easily amused!

I guess I shouldn't equate being outwardly emotional with being weak, just one who "wears her heart on her sleeve". You can and will do this. You will stick by and put one foot in front of the other. So will your husband. It will most likely be the most difficult thing either of you will have to experience, but eventually, you will adapt to what has become a "new normal". I realize this is all easier said than done...isn't that how life goes?!

Again, I wish for you and your husband to find the strength to face each day and new challenge. Peace to you, both.

xoxo,
Kerri