You have the strength to do this - you have no idea how glad I was it was me with the cancer, I knew I could handle it - emotionally it would have been far worse for it to have been a family member - I cannot imagine what your going through... But together you will get through it - I had three in university but two of them were living at home at the time. We always told them we were doing what ever we could to beat it, there is always a chance of recurrence, and they know this so we told hem to go on and live their lives. They did we kept them informed but it wasn't to forefront of our lives. It's good they are away that way you can focus on the healing process etc... Good luck an many blessings to you. Also don't stop looking to the future - but do live for the now, remember even without cancer - none of us is guaranteed a tomorrow...hugs