Malo, it must be their ages. Ive often seen other parents here who have young adults that just dont get it. These young adults seem to be self centered and concerned more for themselves than others. It really is very common for the young adults to think the patient should just move on with their life after going thru so much. Doing volunteer work may help you to cope better with this. Working with other cancer patients or even animals can be very therapeutic. Some patients find seeking out therapists or even anxiety meds can help them move past this part of their lives and help to understand others reactions.



@ Mike, have your sons been vaccinated for HPV? The shots are NOT just for girls. It could help to prevent this from ever happening to them.


Christine
SCC 6/15/07 L chk & by L molar both Stag I, age44
2x cispltn-35 IMRT end 9/27/07
-65 lbs in 2 mo, no caregvr
Clear PET 1/08
4/4/08 recur L chk Stag I
surg 4/16/08 clr marg
215 HBO dives
3/09 teeth out, trismus
7/2/09 recur, Stg IV
8/24/09 trach, ND, mandiblctmy
3wks medicly inducd coma
2 mo xtended hospital stay, ICU & burn unit
PICC line IV antibx 8 mo
10/4/10, 2/14/11 reconst surg
OC 3x in 3 years
very happy to be alive smile