Thank you everyone for the great welcome and advice! while i really don't want to be here I think having this support is going to be so critical.

Christine, I have 3 girls who are 8,14 and 16 and then a 12 yr old stepson as well. None of my family lives here so that is really hard for me, even this early on and I know im going to miss them even more as this goes on. 2 of my sisters are trying to make arrangements to come and see me, probably after cmas. My husbands family- i have his sister her husband but that's it. I am lucky I some really good friends who I know will be here for whatever I need from them.