I thank everyone for their responses. My Dad just had his 3rd treatment (of this round) last Friday. His mood has changed, so much that they're getting away for a few days, then back for treatment on Friday. They have increased his pain meds. I think he's on 2 patches and hydrocodene 4 times a day. I have to give props for my step-mother. She has taken very good care of him. He's said that he wants to come back to NC once he's done with these treatments.

marisakay, is your father-in-law's pain in his neck/mouth region, or can he feel it in his bones? I hope they can get the pain under control. Maybe that will give your husband some time with his Father. If he/you haven't read Final Journeys, I would highly recommend it. I don't think you can ever be prepared, but I think it will help me with how I handle myself around my Father, as well, how I handle this with my children (10,8, and 3.) Take Care...