Hi Susan, we can change our attitude but not that of other people especially those who have not gone through our odeal. I have a colleague who always said, "if I were you, could not eat this or that, could not feel the taste, I would rather kill myself." So how would I think when I heard this? The first time I felt really bad but now I simply think they are inconsiderate, naive, ignorant.... I simply look down upon these people and kick them off the list of my friends. I won't let these people have a place in my mind. That is how I handle negative remarks and insulting/sympathetic looks from people I know. For strangers, I just ignore them and turn a deaf ear to what they say or ask if I am not in the mood. Anyway, you give me hope that a person can be a cancer survivor for 32 years!

Karen.