Hi Susan,

You can be sure your in good company here! There is a whole bunch with the same kind of surgical work. Congratulations on so many years of life after cancer. I too wondered why I never saw anyone else with the same scar.

You certainly are a beautiful wife and mother!

There may be someone here that can offer some comments on how they worked out the appearance thing. Personally I think you look fine smile I sometimes wonder about how people see me and I also know that many times they don't even notice.

I try to think of it as a life achievment badge. Something to be worn with pride. The fact that they can see it means you are a winner!

Feel free to vent here if you need to

Mark, 21 Year survivor, SCC right tonsil, 3 nodes positive, one with extra-capsular spread. I never asked what stage (would have scared me anyway) Right side tonsillectomy, radical neck dissection right side, maximum radiation to both sides, no chemo, no PEG, age 40 when diagnosed.