Hi rachael. I'm really sorry to hear what you and your family are going through. I always hesitate to respond to posts of this nature because it seems like there should be some words of great wisdom and comfort and I always come up short. All I can do is wish you and all of your family the strength to get through this time.

David R. 65 yr old male non-smoker, light drinker, stage 3 or 4, depending on which doc you ask, scc rt. tonsil, 2 nodes, 7 weeks radiation and chemo. No surgery. Teatment ended 3/20/08. PET scan 8/08 showed no cancer.
And now, as of oct, 2010, caregiver to wife, Linda, with breast cancer.
May, 2013, Linda diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer. Enuf already.