Oh, Kathie - I'm so sorry your sister is having such a difficult time. I can understand her reluctance to get on this forum. She has so much to handle now. When my son was in treatment, he only posted a few times because he said it depressed him and I can understand that but we still got lots of help for him because of what I learned by my being here. Sometimes when I read something I thought would help him, I would print out the pages and just leave them someplace where he was sure to see them and it did help him a lot. Maybe it could help your sister until she is ready to come see us herself. I do hope for some better days ahead for you and your sister.