The only thing anyone (including medical professionals and friends - we have no family) ever said to me was "now make sure you look after yourself". I would just look at them and reply, "Yeah? When?" I'm still reeling from the fallout (physical and emotional) of being the sole caregiver. I was regarded as a nuisance by the medical professionals and expected to just shut up while they were dealing with Gordon, who was so bombed on painkillers that he could hardly string a sentence together, which he would try to do when he wasn't hallucinating.
Elianne.

Anne - CG to Gordon (59), non-smoker/non-drinker. SCC, BOT, HPV 16+, stage 3. Jan./10 - radical neck dissection to remove 48 lymph nodes, 1 node pos. Apr. 23/10 - finished 35 rad. and 3 cisplatin. Jul. 22/10 - PET scan clear.