Wow - you've been through a lot Malka... kudos to you on your cancer free status. It's sad that you have to ask to be bathed. When I was nursing even in intensive care we would give a regular bed bath. Or have a student do it, with supervision. I know nurses are overstressed - and overworked, but frankly there should be a level of care that is maintained. Basic cleanliness is good for the patient and their wounds as well as the fact that it promotes normalcy.

I have told my husband that post op... I want only him and my kids to see me for the first 3-5 days... I will not be able to talk, I will likely be a mess and on pain meds - There is no point for a friend to come visit... even distant family. If my dad were here I would likely tell him to come on day 5 too. My inlaws as well. What is the point of seeing them if I am non responsive? Plus a room full of people who may or may not have colds etc... is a bad idea anyway. When I was nursing we were taught to be the patient's advocate - how can you do that when you can't even administer proper care...