Anne - Being a caregiver can be so difficult at times, but at least it's good that you got Gordon to agree to speak to his doctor about the meds he is on. There are often bad side effects and reactions depending on the individual taking them. And it can be scarey to even look up stuff on cancer even though you know it's better to find out. Before I found this forum it took me several days before I could even bear to search the internet for "Squamous Cell Cancer". I was so afraid of that I would find out and of losing my son. So I can see why maybe Gordon is hesitant about reading anything about oral cancer. My son only came on this site a very few times because he said it depressed him so I ended up printing out the more positive aspects of recovery for him to see and the awesome people on this site helped us both more than words can ever say. You say that Gordon is eating better so it sounds like he is making some progress. At one point, when my son just did not seem to care about his recovery I told him I felt I was the only one fighting this cancer and he just had to help me out a little! Maybe if you talk to the doctor before Gordon does and let him know what's going on, he might be able to give him a little encouragement in getting healthier. Caregivers get depressed, too, Anne - so do think about what you can do for yourself to help you feel better. Please check back and let us know what's happening.