Thank you all for your posts.

This past weekend was a rough one on both Bob and myself. Like you said Eric when the rush was on it was the most easiest time, we had things that had to be done. Now that things are down to a wait man is it hard. I want more of a bond time and he seems to want more of an alone time.

Karen, I can most relate to you, Bob is my rock we talk about every thing and untill a week ago we did. Then the date for surgery was set, now my co-workers have more to say to me then Bob does. He says he is not mad at me, he just hurts and is tired.I can understand but it is still hard. We don't fight but we don't talk like we used to a week ago. He says that it will change after surgery but he just does not understand he won't be talking for awhile after surgery. I am trying not to let Mrs Hyde come out but she is on the verge.

Anne-Marie I hurt for you so very much. I have two sons I can't and don't even want to imagine going through this and the patient be my son. You are so strong words can't even begin to say.

Again thank you for your words they do help and go straight to my heart.

Deb