Roma

Before you get too freaked out, even if you got an HPV infection it does NOT mean you would get oral cancer. When you read about how easy it is to spread HPV and the connection with oral cancer, you would expect this board to be full of sad sad stories about how our spouses all now have HPV and oral cancer. Yet it simply is not happening.

Personal example: While my tumor tested positive for HPV, my wife's cervical swabs all test negative for HPV. Yet we have been married for 26 years, faithful to each other the entire time and have had a very active sex life (still do). I sometimes worry that new readers will think they have to stop having sex whether they are caretakers or oral cancer patients. Short and sweet answer to your real question;
Oral Cancer is NOT CONTAGIOUS to spouses.
Hope this makes you feel better
charm