Eric,
My stepdad has kind of checked out of our situation. He is there physically, sometimes he goes to Dr appointments and he spent the night at the hospital a few times during each of her surgeries. Aside from that, I am her emotional support. I am the one that makes appointments. I makek sure she takes all of her meds and eats. I am pushing to get us to Anderson. I pushed to get us an appointment for Duke and to see a new oncologist. When I tuck my mom in at night, I think that if that were me laying in bed, I would want my husband with me. But he sits int he other room and watches tv till 3 in the morning - every night.
Sometimes I wish hed just go live somewhere else and get the hell out of my way if hes not even going to help. I dont know whats going through his head. I guess its just how he 'deals' with things..by not dealing with things.
This post was all about our situation but just wanted to let you know youre not alone