thanks i appreciate all your suggestions patcey. im definitely going to include them in the planning as much as possible.
also we decided that en lieu of favors, we will be making a donation in everyone's name to OCF! we thought that was a great way to show him how important his recovery is to us and donate to a meaningful cause in our lives.

*KATIE*
future FIL dx with s4 SCC in jaw11/09 15 hour surg/trach/PEG in. 7 weeks of cisplatin/rads. 6/10- cancerous lung nodule- 1 wk of radiation. 8/13 pneumonia. 8/24 pulmonary embolism, on ventillator. 9/3/10 died peacefully w/o pain with family. 9/17/10 my wedding