I second all the advice to get help for yourself. I often wanted to but never did. My husband stopped drinking shortly before his first surgery but still ended up with the DT's while in the SICU. This complicated his recovery and he had to be given drugs to stop the shakes adding additional days to his hospital stay. He never really drank after that because his mouth was too sore. It was a shame to see the wonderful man that he had kept hidden by the booze too late. He had such incredible srength till the end and I wish he would have realized that he didn't need the alcohol to be an amzazing person. Get help for yourself-they may be able to help you help him.