Hi Laurie, so sorry to hear of your situation. Don't really know what to say but wanted to let you you know that others have been in the same situation. Can't agree more with the other people that responded suggesting seeking Al-Anon or some other support group. I think my biggest advice would be to try to seperate the two issues, the one being caring for someone that is battling cancer and the other living with and caring for an alcoholic. If his drinking was a problem before finding out about cancer, his drinking after treatment is still a problem that should probably be dealt with. Even if alcohol is not attributing to his problems with cancer, it is still contributing to other health issues that may not have appeared yet. I will get off my soapbox and send whatever strength I can your way.